All men want to be the master of their
partner’s pleasure, we know this to be true. Unfortunately there’s no
“One Size Fits All” formula for how to please each individual woman, and
you can’t always count on your new se.x partner to be able to
communicate her desires early on. So what’s an eager-to-please man to do
if he wants a surefire way to rock any partner’s world?
No matter who you’re with or what
they’re into, there’s one ingredient that is sure to set you apart from
all other lovers: Variety AKA the spice of your se.x life.
It doesn’t matter how hot your go-to
moves are. If you’re doing the same things in bed time after time,
things are bound to become a little stale. That’s why you need to mix
things up and surprise your partner with more adventurous tricks and new
paths to pleasure. If you can not only discover her hot spots, but also
introduce her to hotter ones she didn’t know she had, you can almost
guarantee a return customer, or at the very least, a standing O.
Lucky for you, these hotbeds for erotic
activity (also known as erogenous zones) are located all across the
female body and are surprisingly easy to pleasure. So turn on some
sensual music, light a few aromatherapy candles, and settle in — It’s
time to go exploring!
From her head all the way to her toes, here are 10 of the top erogenous zones to turn her on:
Her Head
Have you ever been on the receiving end
of a scalp massage and felt those warm fuzzy tingles from head to toe?
That’s because the skin on the top of your head is loaded with nerves
that are extremely sensitive to the touch. Stimulating the scalp in the
right way releases a flood of feel-good hormones like serotonin and
oxytocin. It also increases blood flow, not just to her brain (the
largest
se.x organ, remember?) but all over her body.
Next time you and your partner are
kissing or cuddling, open your fingers wide and run them slowly through
her hair, lightly stroking her scalp with your fingertips. Start behind
her ears, at the base of the head, and circulate to the front, kind of
like you’re lathering shampoo into your hair. Scalp massages are both
soothing and sensual: They help release tension, and get her in the mood
for other stimulating activities.
Her Ears
Although ears contain a ton of tiny
nerve endings that send pleasurable responses to the brain, they receive
very little attention in their day to day; this makes them an even
hotter spot to stimulate during sexy time. Still, not everyone is
comfortable with full tongue-to-ear penetration so the trick is to start
off start off slowly and work your way up to more full ear contact.
Start by lightly tracing the C-shaped
outline of your partner’s ear with your fingertips or with your tongue.
Gently kiss her earlobe or hold it lightly in your mouth and massage it
with your lips. If she seems okay with this, you can take it as a green
light to start to nibble or suck on the lobe. Once you become more
comfortable with the landscape, try combining all of these moves
together and every once and while, work your tongue into the center of
her ear for a surprising but pleasurable sensation.
Another great way to stimulate this spot
is with sound! Never underestimate the power of a low moan or a sultry
whisper sent directly (but softly) into her ear canal to drive her mad
with desire.
Her Lips
Lips are the most exposed of all
erogenous zones, and are packed with a ton of nerve endings (100 times
more than our fingertips) that are sensitive to even the slightest
touch. Stimulating them releases floods of feel-good hormones to our
brains that affect our emotions, as well as our lady parts. That’s why
kissing is such an essential act for couples. It enhances intimacy and
helps partners connect, plus it just feels good.
Lips can be best stimulated through
kissing, obviously, but don’t be afraid to add a little variety to the
way you’re pleasuring them! Your mouth should not be pressed up against
hers like a dead fish. Use your lips, tongue and teeth to lick, nibble
and caress her top and bottom lips. Every once in awhile, take a break
from kissing to gently trace the outline of her lips with your thumb as
you gaze into her eyes and catch your breath, before leaning in for
more.
Her Neck
The neck is an area that is most
sensitive to LIGHT sensations, and it’s also one of the sexiest places
to touch, lick and kiss. Because the skin in this area is thin, it does
not take a lot to make it feel good. Even the feeling of gentle breath
on the nape of the neck can send shivers down a woman’s spine.This
is a great erogenous zone to start stimulating, even before your
partner is fully aroused. Try sweeping her hair up and planting gentle,
warm kisses along the side of her neck, close to the place you would
touch to check a pulse. The skin here is especially thin, meaning every
sensation will be magnified. Then you can kiss your way up to her
earlobe for a gentle nibble or two before going in for the full lip
lock.
Her Ni.pples
Although men have been paying very
special attention to ni.pple for years, it’s remarkable how few men know
how to pleasure them to their full potential. Research shows that
ni.pple stimulation is processed in the same region of the brain as
touch to the cli.toris and va.gina, making it a key part of the holy
trinity of female pleasure.
While gently massaging your partner’s
bre.ast with one hand, use your fingers or tongue to lightly trace the
area around the areola, before placing your open mouth on her nipple.
Try using your lips to softly hold the nipple in your mouth and run your
tongue back and forth over it; use your lips and tongue to massage the
area, paying attention to her bodily cues to determine what she likes
best.
Besides licking and sucking, you can
also use a clitoral vibrator (Like theWe-Vibe Touch) on a low setting to
lightly massage her nipples, as they are very sensitive to vibrations.
Her Lower Back
Whether it’s at the end of a long day,
or just another Tuesday, no woman can resist the power of a sensual back
massage. The back is riddled with muscles and nerves that respond
positively to touch, and the small of the back is especially sensitive.
Start off by gently rubbing and
caressing her back, focusing most of your attention to the sacrum, which
is the area of her lower back just above the tailbone that is rich with
nerve endings. Then you can start massaging the area right above her
buttocks, using your thumbs to knead either side of (but not directly
over) her spine. This maneuver becomes especially hot with the addition
of some luxurious massage oil, like the moisturizing oil from Emily
& Tony aromatherapy massage candles.
This move will not only help to relax
your partner, but also increase blood flow to her pelvic region and
increase its sensitivity. Perfect for what comes next!
Her Abdomen
Many women hold a lot of insecurities
about their midsection, but the fact is that the abdomen is an extremely
erotic area that should not be ignored. A woman’s abdominal muscles are
connected to her va.gina, which is why some women can even orgasm
simply from doing core exercises. When these muscles are lightly
stimulated during foreplay, it causes them to contract in anticipation,
which actually boosts arousal. Plus, that stretch of skin between the
breasts and pubic mound is loaded with nerve endings, and it’s proximity
to the genitals makes it that more more sensitive to the touch.
With your partner straddling you, start
slowly stroking your fingers up and down her stomach or across her lower
abdomen (between her bellybutton and pubic mound) which will stimulate
blood flow to her nether regions. Allow your strokes to get lower and
lower, closer to her nether regions, then bring them back up. The
anticipation will build arousal until she is begging you for more direct
stimulation.
Her Clitoris
The clitoris is the only part of the
human body that’s sole purpose is to provide pleasure. With 8,000 nerve
endings packed in such a small little space, you’ve gotta respect that
ratio!
Every clitoris is a little different in
terms of sensitivity; even light pressure from fingertips may be too
much for some ladies, while others can take a lot more stimulation.
Start off light: Use two fingertips to gently massage the clitoris. Try
using a circular motion, or switch it up with some up and down movements
as well. Experiment with different speeds and pressure to see what
works best for the recipient. Remember, this is not a rub n’ tug kind of
experience, so be gentle. And a little lubrication certainly doesn’t
hurt.
You can also stimulate the clitoris with
your mouth, or even bring a vibrator into the mix! The egg-shaped Mimi
by Je Joue is the perfect se.x toy for clitoral stimulation.
Her Inner Thighs
As anyone on the receiving end of a
tickle fight will tell you, the inner thighs are ridiculously sensitive
to all forms of touch. Along with the backs of her knees, the inner
thighs are loaded with nerve endings and are often considered to be
among the most sensitive parts of the body, so gentle touches and licks
are most preferred.
Next time you’re planning on going down
on your partner, take a detour and show a little love to her inner
thighs. Use gentle finger strokes and light licks to stimulate the skin
there, as well as soft breaths against the slightly moist spots where
your tongue has just been. You can even massage her thighs while your
perform oral on her, which will stimulate the blood-flow to her
genitals, making everything your mouth is doing feel that much better.
Her Feet
You don’t have to have a fetish to be
able to show your partner’s feet a little love. Many are surprised to
find that a foot stimulation can actually be a real turn on! This is
because there are pressure points in your feet that are believed to
trigger sexual arousal, or at the very least, help her de-stress after a
hard day.
Plop your partner’s feet into your lap
and treat her (hopefully clean) tootsies to a sensual rub down. Start by
massaging the pads of her feet, using your thumbs to rub upward in a
circular motion. Repeat this kneading motion as you move slowly down the
length of her foot, then move back up again all the way to the toes.
Remember, this is not a strength competition, so ask her what type of
pressure she prefers.
Source: Dr. Emily Morse, SexWithEmily.com
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