OK, so you aren’t an awful husband. But
there are some pretty awful things you definitely don’t want creeping
into your marriage. Your wife deserves better than a husband with any of
these 10 ugly habits.
1. Critical
Please watch yourself and don’t get
caught in the trap of criticizing your wife. Choose to see the good in
your wife. Compliment her on all the things she is doing right. Next
time you find yourself wanting to tell her something you don’t like
about her, switch it around and pay her a sincere compliment. She will
love it.
2. Controlling
2. Controlling
Believe it or not, you aren’t always
right. And your beautiful wife is actually very good at making her own
decisions (and typically she makes very good decisions). So stop feeling
like you need to control where she’s going, what she’s doing, how much
she’s spending and more. Instead of stressing about that, work together
as a team, encouraging and supporting each other. Let your wife be her
own person, and give her wings to fly.
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3. Treats you like an object
3. Treats you like an object
Please, husbands! Your wife isn’t an
object. She is your wife, your best friend and your queen. She deserves
your utmost respect, especially when it comes to s*xual intimacy. Always
respect her and her body and work on establishing emotional connection
and trust before thinking about sharing s*xual intimacy with your wife.
s*x can be the most unifying, fulfilling and beautiful thing in marriage
when you both treat each other respectfully.
4. Doesn’t give you the time of day
4. Doesn’t give you the time of day
You have a wife. You lucky guy. Please
don’t forget about her. Don’t be too busy to call her, text her or
recognize her when she walks in the room. The next time you see her,
give her a big hug and tell her you love her. Let her know she is your
top priority by putting her first — ahead of work, time with your
buddies, or watching that game. Sit on the couch and talk to her. Tell
her about your day, your thoughts, your worries, and your funny
experiences. Beware, you may find that sparks suddenly start flying
around like crazy.
5. Uses crude or dirty language
Husbands, come on. You aren’t teenage
boys anymore (and even then, bad language wasn’t really cool). Watch
your mouth. Work to cut the swearing habit, and remove crude, rude and
dirty language from your vocabulary. You may be amazed at all the other
words available for use in expressing your feelings. Your wife deserves
to hear words that a gentleman would speak, not a raga-muffin. Buy
yourself a dictionary. OK, not really, but try some new words. Your wife
will be tickled pink and others will think you’re much more
intelligent.
6. Views p****graphy
This is one sure way to ruin your
marriage, your life and your future. Simply put, don’t view p****graphy
and let your eyes linger everywhere you go. Look inward and decide to
choose a better path. If you are entrenched in the ugly habit of
p****graphy, seek out professional help (there are many great resources
to turn to). Find a counselor who can help you begin the process of
becoming free from this addiction. You have to want change for yourself
and for those you love. So dig deep and decide what kind of life you
really want.
7. Has too high of expectations
7. Has too high of expectations
The last thing your sweet wife needs to
hear is that she doesn’t measure up to your unrealistic expectations.
Please don’t compare your wife’s body, budgeting skills, or parenting
skills to so-and-so down the street. Your comparisons will, over time,
crush her self-esteem. Decide to be kind, to be patient, to be forgiving
and to be flexible. The more you emphasize all of her positive
qualities, the more she will naturally start living up to those positive
compliments and become the woman you describe, and more.
8. Doesn’t help out around the house
8. Doesn’t help out around the house
Seriously? You may bring in half the
income, or all of it, but that doesn’t mean you can chill on the couch
while your wife cleans, tidies and washes dishes day-in and day-out.
Kick it up a notch and offer to help out. Clean the toilet (yes, the one
you use every day), carry in the groceries or unload the dishwasher
(oh, the horror). You and your wife are a team and ought to work side by
side creating the home of your dreams.
9. Loses his temper often
9. Loses his temper often
You are a grown man. Yelling at your
wife is not appropriate, effective or helpful. Hitting is completely off
limits. Rage, lashing out, throwing things and threatening are all
forms of abuse. You can learn to control your temper. You can learn to
respond calmly and with love. As you do, your wife will feel safe with
you and love being around you.
10. Lies and cheats
10. Lies and cheats
If you think you can sneak off with that
babe from work and your wife will never know, then you’re kidding
yourself and in for a very rude awakening. And honestly, even if your
wife never found out, it’s still wrong. Don’t throw away everything that
is truly meaningful for a fleeting moment of pleasure. Choose to be
honest. Choose to be loyal. Live up to those promises you made to your
bride. She deserves all that, and more.
Now, if you saw yourself in any of these
ugly habits, don’t beat yourself up. Rather decide to be better and
make changes. Chart a course today that will lead you, and your wife, to
that happily-ever-after marriage you have always wanted.
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