Maintaining
a long term relationship takes work. It takes two people who believe in
the relationship and who is determined to make things work. So, just in
case you have lost your way, or you are feeling a little disconnected
from your partner, here are ways to strengthen your love every day.
Be polite: Just
because he/she is your partner, or just because you assume that what
you are asking for is your partner’s responsibility, does not mean you
should ask impolitely. Saying things like “please, can I have my food?”
or “please can you empty the bin?” will make your significant other feel
less like a slave and more like a partner. Although, they might not
attack when you ask rudely, but they will, very likely, hold a tiny
little grudge, which increases day by day until it becomes full-blown
resentment.
Be grateful: Saying
“thank you” is such a simple thing to do, and it goes a very long way
in warming your partner’s heart. So, it is important to do this. Always
remind them that you appreciate what they do for you. Appreciate your
woman for keeping the home and appreciate your man for his hard work.
People feel more encouraged and inspired to do more when they know they
will be appreciated.
Apologise: Never
be too proud to say “sorry.” Remember, your relationship should be more
important to you than having the last word or being “right.” Say sorry
when you know you have wronged your partner and solve all issues you
might have.
Talk about your relationship: When
people have been together for a long time, it is so easy for those
relationship talks you had in the beginning, to take the back burner. A
relationship is like a seed, if you do not give it attention, it will
not grow or yield fruit. So, do not forget to communicate and talk about
ways to grow together.
Hang out with others: Experts
advice couples to hang out with other couples when they can. This is
because, when you are with other couples, you have discussion about
issues you might not have discussed with your partner. This is a way for
your partner to see another side of you and maybe catch a better
glimpse into who you are.
Check in on each other: Is
your partner feeling like he/she is achieving his/her potential? Are
they happy with their career, their education, where they are in life?
Check in on your partner’s dream and ambition, no matter how busy your
life is. Let them know you still support them, regardless of whatever is
going on in your lives.
Be transparent: Once
a person feels like his/her partner is acting secretive or shady, this
will be the beginning of insecurity in that relationship. Be open and
honest about what you do or where you are. This is what a partnership
means. If you choose someone to share your life with, then actually
share your life with them.
Hash out issues: No
matter how little, no matter how insignificant, make sure every issue
is rectified. If something about your partner bothers you, or does not
make you comfortable, speak up and reach a compromise. A lot of people
wake up to see their relationship is dead simply because they ignored
the little signs of discontent.
Have fun: No
matter what is going on, you need to remember to laugh as a couple.
This is why people keep saying it is great to be in a relationship with
someone who makes you laugh. Laughing or having fun relieves stress.
Relationships are tough and sometimes, you get buried working on so many
things that you forget relationships should be fun too. So, go
somewhere fun, or just stay in and have a good time with each other. You
will feel closer and more in love with your partner.
Forgive: No
matter what challenges you are facing as a couple, remember that nobody
is perfect. If your partner asks for forgiveness, then forgive. And
forgive wholeheartedly. Understand that the one you love will hurt you
sometimes, but this does not mean they do not love you. It just means
they are only human. So, forgive.
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