1. You’ll have your first orga sm by yourself. Few of us are lucky enough to start our se xual lives with a lover who’s so patient and skilled he can teach us about our own body.
2. Enthusiasm and being willing to try (almost) everything once is what makes you se xy. Looks, breasts, legs up to your armpits – they’ll only take you so far.
3. A vibr ator is the quickest, easiest, most effective way to stimulate the clito ris, which is how most women have an 0rgasm.
4. You won’t become ‘addicted’ to your vibrat0r.
Using it often won’t put you off having the ‘real thing’ – quite the opposite!
Women who regularly use se x toys have higher libidos, orga sm easily and report less se xual dysfunction. About the only ‘bad’ thing that can happen is feeling a bit numb from having it up too high. Panic not – It’s temporary.
5. Only 20 per cent of women can org asm purely from interc ourse.
His ex-girlfriend who used to climax every time, effortlessly, within minutes of him penetrating, was lying.
6. If he can’t kiss, he’ll be useless in bed.
Especially true of men who stick a stiff tongue down your throat the second you lock lips.
7. The male se xual system is join-the-dots stuff. The female se xual system is complicated and not terribly well thought through.
Who thought putting the clito ris outside the vagina would be a good idea?
8. Anyone can be good in bed. But you do need a good working knowledge of your subject, experience and be willing to take and give feedback.
9. It’s obvious if you don’t like se x. All the tips and tricks in the world can’t teach you how to fake I’ll-die-if-I-don’t-have-you-now desire
10. The chances of you both clima xing together is extremely unlikely. So let’s all stop pretending and stop faking just because that’s what couples do on telly and in the movies.
11. If you fancy a three some, do it with someone you’re not in love with. It goes a lot smoother in your head than in your bed and not much fun if you’re a frothing mess of jealousy and insecure paranoia throughout.
12. You’ll have a much better se x life if you match up with someone who has the same libido. Everyone’s s ex drive spikes at the start but about eight months in, you’ll get a good idea of how much se x you both naturally crave. Mismatched s ex drives are the main reason couples fight about se x. If you can possibly manage it, stick with your tribe.
13. No one is born a brilliant lover. S ex skills can be taught and brushing up on the basics, just to check you’re on the right track, is something everyone should do. We can all improve.
14. It doesn’t mean you’re boring in bed if he wants to try something new. Let go of the concept that ‘you should be enough’.
It’s hard enough making love happily to the same person for the rest of your life. If you don’t have variety, you’ve lost the game before it’s even started.
15. Men are visual. They like looking at se xy things. This is the main reason why men watch po rn.
It’s usually that innocent.
16. Both men and women like for eplay. Quickies are great now and then but dreary and unsatisfying if that’s all you’re offered.
17. Don’t confuse love and lust. You spend a tiny proportion of your lives having se x.
It helps if you quite like hanging out together the rest of the time.
18. Men generally like to be touched twice as hard as women do. Their skin is thicker. This doesn’t mean you should be rough though.
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19. Giving oral se x without using your hands is about as effective as bobbing for apples in a bucket of water with your hands behind your back.
21. The more different ways you can org asm, the more orga sms you’ll have. This means forcing yourself to try a new way to clim ax if you can only do it one way.
22. The first time you have se x shapes you forever.
If losing your virg inity was a positive experience, you’re more likely to view se x as something that’s healthy and enjoyable and lovers as nice people who can be trusted.
If your first time still haunts you years later, consider working it through with a good s ex therapist.
23. Men aren’t just out for se x. But it’s easy to spot the ones who are. They won’t hang around past date three if you don’t put out.
24. There is such a thing as bad or al se x. And not all men adore o ral se x.
25. Erections come and go during se x. It doesn’t mean he’s not enjoying it, it means he was focusing on you and not receiving any physical stimulation.
26. It’s often easier to org asm solo than it is with a partner, especially when it’s with someone new.
27. The most likely time you’ll fake it is at the start. You don’t want to seem anything less than perfect. It’s later on, when you start teaching each other what really does it for you, that you’ll have your first real orga sm.
28. All men watch porn. But that’s OK because lots of women do too. Don’t read too much into it.
29. Stop worrying about your weight.
Men are far more forgiving of your wobbly bits than you are. He’s not looking at your thighs and thinking ‘Ew! Porridge’, he’s thinking, ‘Let me get my hands on those’. Se xy is a state of mind, not a body size.
30. All se x positions are a variant of the basic five: him on top, her on top, side-by-side, from behind and standing.
31. If you never initiate se x, your partner will feel like you only have s ex to please them. Besides, initiating se x makes you feel powerful which is an aphrodisiac.
32. Women feel like se x a lot at certain times of the month and are repulsed by the idea at others. This is normal. The female libido fluctuates wildly during the monthly cycle.
Let your partner know this information so they don’t take it personally – and where you’re at right now.
33. Real men don’t always get erections. Stress, age, alcohol and lots of medication all affect them.
You don’t need an erect penis to have a good time in bed. Most women have their best, most intense orga sms through oral se x.
34. Genitals come in all different shapes and sizes. Don’t compare yours to the p orn stars: they’ve all been ‘tidied up’, bleached and waxed.
35. If you’re thinking of getting a ‘designer vag ina’, you are barking mad. Vagi nal tightening after a particularly horrible birth is one thing but opting for a ‘labial face-lift’ is as risky as the above-the-belt version.
Except worse because there’s a risk of permanent loss of sensation if too much skin is removed or ultra-sensitivity if a nerve is exposed.
This effectively means your ability to orgasm is compromised – or removed. You look fine as you are. Really.
36. Having se x purely to get the cuddle at the end isn’t healthy. If that’s what you’re really after, go see a friend or your Mum instead of a lover. Better still, get a dog.
37. Some men ask for se x when what they really want is love.
Women aren’t the only ones who use se x to get affection. Having s ex is a sneaky, ‘manly’ way of getting close to you.
38. Se x long-term is very different than se x short term. It doesn’t mean you don’t fancy your partner because you’re not spontaneously gagging for it every day, six years in.
39. He’s not a mind reader. No-one knows what it is you feel like, at any given moment, other than you.
40. Mouths are good for lots of things but telling your partner what you like and don’t like is the most important use of all.
41. Refuse to feel guilty about your fantasies. What you get up to in your imagination is your business.
42. Se x is smelly, noisy, sweaty and unflattering. Leave your ego at the door and replace it with your sense of humour. If you haven’t broken wind at the worst possible moment, you’re probably playing it too safe.
43. The more you have sex, the more you want se x. Stop having it and you’ll forget how good it feels.
44. Think before you share your se xual fantasies. Make it clear what you’re doing it or you may come home to a ‘surprise’ you definitely didn’t expect.
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45. It’s OK to stop having se x from time to time.
Sometimes life is too stressful (work worries, death of a parent) or children too demanding. Taking a sex break takes the pressure off and stops either of you freaking out because you know it’s not permanent.
46. Kids kill your se x life. But you can wrestle it back again once they’re hit age two.
47. If you can talk though your sex problems you can nearly always solve them.
48. Don’t try to put yourself in a box. Women are far more erotically plastic than men and much more likely to be aroused by the person, rather than their gender.
49. If you’re feeling bad after se x you’re sleeping with the wrong person.
50.S ex is about give and take. You don’t have to reciprocate in the same session but if you’re constantly lying back and taking, you’re a selfish lover. Not se xy. Not lovable.
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