Not everyone looks forward to celebrate
the day of love and of lovers. And I am not talking about single or
broken-hearted people. I am talking about those couples who have felt
their relationships slipping out of their fingers and are only left with
good-old-day memories of how their previous days were enjoyed with love
and honeymoon tactics (plenty, plenty calling, love texting and pillow
talks have now become squeezed-in ‘how are you’ texts).
You need to bring the spark back into
your relationship and though it might sound corny, this Valentine’s
WEEKEND is the perfect opportunity.
1.) Take Your Mind Off S3@.x:’:
When was the last time you truly went heart-to-heart? You speak to each other every day but do you really talk?
How well have you gotten to know each
other in the past time that you have just been speaking? Talking does
not mean to just bring up the subject of your almost-dead relationship
(you can try that afterwards but not now). You may end up fighting
(unless that is what you want) and breaking up.
The two of you change as time goes on
and so talking about each other’s aspirations, or for instance, career
projections, could help you figure out how you have individually changed
and what has influenced that change.
More importantly, you could subtly pick
up on whether the other values your relationship or not. Talking could
also get you to remember the good old days and bring up sweet memories.
It will increase your level of intim@cy towards each other depending on
which topics you focus on (you should know the volatile topics by now)
2. Stop Everything
…and concentrate on your partner. The
spark is probably out because of your busy schedules but the weekend
should be reserved for the two of you just for the sake of your
relationship. This counts as special because you choose to focus on your
time together.
Your partner will definitely appreciate
the effort. During this time together, do not allow technology to ruin
it. Technology has become the devil of relationships today; just do not
allow it to reign in yours for the length of the time you will spend
together.
You both must understand that your time
together is special and supremely important over every other thing or
person (make room for contingencies though)
3. Do Something New
And make sure it is something both of
you enjoy. You have already sacrificed your time to be together so do
not sacrifice your happiness. A lot of people in relationships do things
they do not because they enjoy them but simply because it is at their
partner’s bidding.
While that is wonderful (to compromise
amicably) and hopefully reciprocal (of course, it should be even), that
time for sacrifice is not now. A great way to spice up your relationship
is to break out in new activities together and explore something
different and perhaps unfamiliar.
You are going to get the thrill of
experiencing something you both may be uncertain about but it is a great
opportunity to rely on each other’s instincts to survive in the new
activity thereby shooting up the level of trust in your partner. Which
new activity will you enjoy exploring with your partner?
If you truly want to save your
relationship, you both should find ways to make it wonderful. Any one of
you should take the initiative and make it work.
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