Most ladies are scared of meeting their
boyfriend’s parents for the first time for obvious reasons. However,
these are certain tips to destroy your fear and impress them.
1. Dress appropriately
First impression may not be the last,
but it does leave a lasting image. Reserve those $exy clothes for dates,
and go for something more old-school. At the same time, you don’t have
to dress to the dimes. A pretty kurta teamed with tights is your safest
options. The look is simple and chic.
2. Take a gift along
It’s your first time at their place. You
don’t want to go empty-handed. Parents want to feel respected for their
position. So take some time out from your schedule, and go gift
shopping with your guy. Buy them something they would use or need. Don’t
opt for something exorbitant or fancy. Like your clothes, keep the gift
simple. You don’t want it to come across like a bribe.
3. Go prepared
The aim of this meeting is to win the
parents over. Treat it like a job interview. Do your homework. If you
can, find out more about them in advance. Get a sense of the family’s
culture. Ask your boyfriend about their likes and dislikes, so that you
know what direction to veer your conversation in.
4. Let them do the talking
Once you’ve exchanged the pleasantries,
follow their cues and let them start the talking. Avoid being
overfriendly or too restrained. Sit back, and learn more about your
‘to-be’ through them. Once you have warmed up sufficiently, start
sharing stuff about yourself. Although you may be awkward in a situation
like this, you don’t want them to think you are withholding
information. A good idea is to rehearse a mock conversation with your
boyfriend.
5. Spare the man
Chances are that most of your
conversation will revolve around the boy. Sharing stories and wanting to
know more about him can be tempting, but see to it that you don’t get
together with his parents and pick on him. His parents might want you to
spill the beans about his quirks, but respect him and avoid it.
6. Don’t be a know-it-all
So, you know everything from the colour
of his favourite shirt to how he loves mixing sauce with anything that
he eats. Good for you. But don’t be Miss Blah-Blah in front of his
parents. Understand that they know him better than you. Families can get
fiercely protective. Even if you’re truly-madly-deeply in love, they’ll
feel like they’ve got years on you. So relax, and go with the flow.
7. Refrain from PDA
Sit next to your guy, but avoid holding
hands. Don’t even think about cuddling. Sure, their parents aren’t
stupid and know that the two of you may have been up to mischief. But
don’t flash it in their face. Be graceful.
8. Watch his ways
He may not be the otherwise
loony-puppy-in-love around his parents. Instead, he may behave like a
tantrum-throwing teenager. As long as he isn’t being a B.rat, you can
relax. However, if he’s being too evasive or mean to you, have a chat
with him post the rendezvous, and tell him that you didn’t appreciate
his behavior. It’s important that he treats you well in front of his
parents.
9. Ignore the ex-factor
Okay, so they may have been completely
smitten by one of his ex-girlfriends. Perhaps, your guy even brought her
home. But don’t be too bothered. It’s the story of his past and doesn’t
matter anymore. If his folks bring it up, don’t dig too much. Smile and
simply change the subject. He loves you and they love him.
10. Another chance
And if you don’t hit it off with them at
the outset, don’t beat yourself black and blue about it. Give them the
benefit of doubt. Perhaps, like you, they too were shy and needed time
to open up. Remember, there’s always a second chance.
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