It is essential for you to know that at
this end of the world some questions are deemed inappropriate if they
are directed at women. The country has been a developing country for a
while and despite the blend in cultural values and beliefs, do not ever
assume Nigerian women would be as blunt as western women.
At this point it is essential for us to
clarify things when it comes to an issue like this; it is important for
couples to open up to each other in order to have the best of the
relationship. However, it is important to be diplomatic in asking
questions in order not to pass the wrong message to your partner.
There are some questions you should
never ask a Nigerian woman; questions like these are usually sensitive
and may put the woman on the edge, it may mount unnecessary pressure on
her and spin her into series of thoughts. Most women avoid questions
like that or become defensive when being asked; they either lie or hold
on to vital parts of the information.
Nigerians are sentimental; they find it
ridiculous when they are being probed about certain issues. Nigerian
women particularly do not like being probed about their personal
affairs.
Find below some of the questions you should never ask a Nigerian woman:
1. How many men have you dated?
No matter how close you are to a woman,
you should avoid asking her questions like this. It ticks women off when
they are being asked questions as personal as this.
Apart from the fact that it is not your
business, you could also get insulted for poking your nose into their
affairs. A Nigerian woman may flare up when being asked this question as
she may feel you are indirectly calling her a whore.
2. Can I kiss you?
Just where do you think you are, some
foreign country? Wake up; this is Nigeria and women get irritated when
they are being asked a question like this. If the kiss did not happen
based on emotions, then it would never happen if you are waiting for an
answer.
You have to learn to read and seize the
moment. Nigerian women are cultured; asking them this question in
moments when they have waves of emotions flooding their thoughts will
restore their sanity.
3. What killed your mother?
Death! If you honestly expect a Nigerian
woman to go into details of what caused the death of one of her loved
ones, then you are not on this planet. Information like that are
considered personal and you may never get the truth. Why would you ask
this question in the first place? You sef… you like aproko!
4. Why are you not pregnant?
Some people naturally make your affair
their business. Some people think they have the right to ask people who
are married questions like this simply because they are friends. The
point is you have to know your limits as a friend even in situations
like this.
It could be traumatic asking a woman who
is having difficulty with conceiving a sensitive question like that.
This would make her depressed and get worked up.
5. Are you pregnant?
Biko, what do you want to do with the
pregnancy? It is seriously annoying when people do not allow you to
breathe simply because just got married.
Nigerian women deal with this question
every time even though they find it annoying. If possible, they want to
know the time their husbands sleep with them and what they do every
second while in their homes.
6. How come you have just a child?
You should never ask a Nigerian woman
this question no matter how close you are to the family. Some people’s
mouths would never stop running, they do not know when to keep quiet.
What business of yours is it for you to ask a woman this question? Do
you have an interest in helping her raise the other kids? Nigerians will
never get tired of aproko.
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