If you are single and seriously wondering why you still have not met your man yet, then this is for you to read.
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Are you spaending most of your weekends
alone, but you don’t want to be? Then it’s time to do a little
self-exploration. Either you’re just really bad at picking dates or
there’s a reason why no one wants to be around you.
Let’s take a look at five ways you’re sabotaging your relationships.
1. You’re indifferent
Staying cool, calm, and collected might
work for a job interview, but it doesn’t cut it in the dating world. If
you genuinely like someone, say it. Don’t hide your feelings in an
effort to look like you have it all together or to avoid the risk of
looking like a fool. Smile and show that you are enjoying your date’s
company. Sometimes you just have to put yourself out there. Just being
your awkward, funny self can be the most attractive thing. If you miss
your date, say so. If you’re looking forward to spending time together
again, share that. Letting someone know you care is enough to make their
heart melt.
2. You don’t take care of yourself
Grooming — whether or not you’re going
on a date — is a must. And when you are on a date, being well groomed
has even more of an impact. Make your date look good. There’s no shame
in wanting people to be just a little jealous of your date because
you’re looking like a major hottie. Look your best at all times. That
means you should pay attention to the small details like your nails,
hair, and accessories. Make an effort to style yourself not only so that
you can look attractive but also so that you can feel good about
yourself. Going the extra mile when it comes to your appearance shows
that you care. When you look sloppy, it sends the message that you are
not invested in either yourself or the relationship.
3. You’re mean
It’s never OK to be rude. Don’t forget
common courtesy, like saying ‘please’ and ‘thank you.’ Also remember to
be polite to those who serve you. Just because someone is holding your
door or bringing a meal to your table does not give you the right to
release vitriol whenever you please. Think before you speak, and don’t
forget to add a little bit of patience and kindness. A little niceness
can go a long way. If you insist on being mean and consistently turn a
blind eye to the needs of others, it’s pretty much guaranteed that you
will spend a lot of time alone.
4. You’re following outdated rules
There’s the three-date rule, the 24-hour
rule, the three month rule, and on it goes. Stop living by crazy rules
and start enjoying your life. All of this rule following will just leave
you frustrated and involved in a highly superficial relationship. Be
yourself and let nature take its course.
5. You’re picky
There are no perfect people. If you’re
waiting for the next best thing to come along, you’ll be waiting for a
very, very long time. Accept that there will be some flaws you’ll just
have to deal with. Only you can decide what’s tolerable, but don’t be
extreme once you do make a decision. If you don’t have any plans to
settle down and get married, then be picky. But if you want to
eventually tie the knot, you’ll have to stop looking so hard for what’s
bad in others and start looking more at yourself and your reasons for
magnifying everyone else’s shortcomings. You might be the problem.
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