This all-important activity is so vital that marriage counselors and psychologists often advise couples not to joke with it, for the sake of keeping the home together, even if they have to prepare a timetable for it, so that the needs of both parties can be well taken care of.
Meanwhile, s*x is only good when the two persons enjoyed the act
and reached cl!max (eja-culatiOn for men
and 0r-ga$m for women), but findings have shown that in most cases, men
reach 0rga$m in about 95 percent of their s*xual activities while about
25 percent of women reach 0rga$m in their s*xual encounters.
Mrs. Motun (surname withheld) is one of such women who could count how many times she has reached 0rga$m on her fingers; even with that, she won’t go far on the first five fingers.
“And you know the irony there, my husband and I have $*x at least thrice a week, but he’s the only one who enjoys it,” she said.
She continued, “Perhaps there is something wrong somewhere. It has almost become a norm and it is an issue you can’t talk to anyone about, so as not to be labelled as being wild. After some minutes, my husband ejacu1ates and that is the end. And the most annoying part is that he sleeps off shortly after. It can be so annoying.
“Initially, I thought it was normal, but while interacting with people, I found that a woman can also reach 0r-ga$m. Maybe because I didn’t have experience about s*x before I married, so I didn’t know much about it. The situation has made me to lose interest in s*x because he puts me in the mood and leaves shortly after.”
Out of frustration of being left hanging after every s*xual activity, Motun confronted her husband on the need to satisfy her as well, but was shocked when her husband told her “I’m trying my best.”
Mosun, a mother of one, is one out of many women who rarely reach 0r-gasm, as evidenced by the responses of women who spoke on the subject. It wasn’t an issue many of them were willing to talk about, because it is wrong for a married woman to discuss her and her husband's bedroom activities in public, but the few who spoke expressed their frustration and the fact that they are helpless.
Even though reaching cl!max has no impact on women’s ability to conceive, it has a lot of impact on how much they enjoy s*x.
It is therefore helpful to decipher why many women don’t reach 0rga$m.
Here is the reason:
Mrs. Motun (surname withheld) is one of such women who could count how many times she has reached 0rga$m on her fingers; even with that, she won’t go far on the first five fingers.
“And you know the irony there, my husband and I have $*x at least thrice a week, but he’s the only one who enjoys it,” she said.
She continued, “Perhaps there is something wrong somewhere. It has almost become a norm and it is an issue you can’t talk to anyone about, so as not to be labelled as being wild. After some minutes, my husband ejacu1ates and that is the end. And the most annoying part is that he sleeps off shortly after. It can be so annoying.
“Initially, I thought it was normal, but while interacting with people, I found that a woman can also reach 0r-ga$m. Maybe because I didn’t have experience about s*x before I married, so I didn’t know much about it. The situation has made me to lose interest in s*x because he puts me in the mood and leaves shortly after.”
Out of frustration of being left hanging after every s*xual activity, Motun confronted her husband on the need to satisfy her as well, but was shocked when her husband told her “I’m trying my best.”
Mosun, a mother of one, is one out of many women who rarely reach 0r-gasm, as evidenced by the responses of women who spoke on the subject. It wasn’t an issue many of them were willing to talk about, because it is wrong for a married woman to discuss her and her husband's bedroom activities in public, but the few who spoke expressed their frustration and the fact that they are helpless.
Even though reaching cl!max has no impact on women’s ability to conceive, it has a lot of impact on how much they enjoy s*x.
It is therefore helpful to decipher why many women don’t reach 0rga$m.
Here is the reason:
Men are able to reach 0rga$m quickly
because the nerves that trigger that intense pleasure are located in the
glans (the rounded part forming the head of the penis), thus, its
stimulation, usually through rubbing the vagi-nal walls during
inter-course, helps them to eja-culate a bit faster.
But for women, those nerves that should drive them to reach 0r-gasm are not really in the va-g!na where they can be stimulated during s*x; they are located in the cl!-toris, which is located at the anterior end of the vul-va, or say towards the north (upper) part of the va-g!nal opening.
Due to location, the cli-tor!s, which is female’s most sensitive zone, is usually not directly stimulated by the pe-n!s during inter-course. Thus, a large number of women are not able to cl!max, even if the s*xual act lasts for a longer time.
According to studies, s*xual activity is usually between 1 and 13 minutes, and understandably, some men could take longer before they eja-cu1ate, but regardless of the length of time, some women may still not reach 0r-gasm.
Therefore, some women who are unable to reach 0r-gasm get to that destination when their cli-tor!s is stimulated by mere hand, simply because that is where the nerves are.
According to a consultant endocrinologist, Dr. Olamoyegun Michael, the primary reason women don’t reach 0r-gasm through penetrative s*x easily is the inadequate stimulation of the cl!-toris by the male organ during s*x.
He said some women actually do reach 0r-gasm but that a significant percentage of women don’t.
But for women, those nerves that should drive them to reach 0r-gasm are not really in the va-g!na where they can be stimulated during s*x; they are located in the cl!-toris, which is located at the anterior end of the vul-va, or say towards the north (upper) part of the va-g!nal opening.
Due to location, the cli-tor!s, which is female’s most sensitive zone, is usually not directly stimulated by the pe-n!s during inter-course. Thus, a large number of women are not able to cl!max, even if the s*xual act lasts for a longer time.
According to studies, s*xual activity is usually between 1 and 13 minutes, and understandably, some men could take longer before they eja-cu1ate, but regardless of the length of time, some women may still not reach 0r-gasm.
Therefore, some women who are unable to reach 0r-gasm get to that destination when their cli-tor!s is stimulated by mere hand, simply because that is where the nerves are.
According to a consultant endocrinologist, Dr. Olamoyegun Michael, the primary reason women don’t reach 0r-gasm through penetrative s*x easily is the inadequate stimulation of the cl!-toris by the male organ during s*x.
He said some women actually do reach 0r-gasm but that a significant percentage of women don’t.
He added, “However, some women can reach 0r-gasm through pene-tration, depending on the experience of both of them, how roomy the woman is, how big the man is, the technique and some other factors. So, it is not hidden that cl!-toris can affect their ability to reach 0rga$m or its frequency.
“That is why in the olden days, when women were circumcised, which is the removal of the cl!-toris, the belief was that those who were not circumcised could be promiscuous, and that goes to show that the cl!-toris is very sensitive and is important in female s*xual satisfaction.”
Written by Punch's Tunde Ajaja
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